What do Yes, Maybe and No mean in a couples questionnaire?

Choose the answer that reflects your own position

Answer the question as you understand it today, rather than guessing what would please the other person. If the wording is unclear, uncertainty is a valid outcome. Different questionnaires may define the labels differently, so read the instructions before you answer.

• Yes: interest in the stated preference, without a promise about when or whether you will act on it.
• Maybe: uncertainty, curiosity or a need for context; it does not mean eventual agreement.
• No: the preference is not something you want to include. You do not owe an explanation.

“I like discussing the idea but do not want to try it” and “I might want this in a different setting” are different kinds of uncertainty. A single label cannot communicate that distinction. If you choose to talk, explain only the context you want to share.

Exactly what Let's Arrange This shares

Each person chooses whether to include intimacy. Let's Arrange This compares only categories both people enable, among those offered when the alignment was created. Each person’s comfort settings also limit which questions can be compared. The table below applies to answers that meet those conditions. Directional preferences must have complementary roles, such as one person giving and the other receiving.

The report does not label intimacy topics with each person’s answer. It shows no intimacy percentage, rejection count or count of No answers. If there is nothing to share, it omits intimacy topics without explaining which answers or category choices kept them hidden.

Read the result without assigning private answers

If a preference appears under Open to discussing, the relevant answers could be Yes/Maybe, Maybe/Yes or Maybe/Maybe. The result itself does not name who chose which. Ask, “Would you like to talk about what this topic means to you?” rather than announcing what you think your partner selected.

If a topic is absent, do not treat the absence as a disclosed No. It may involve a missing answer, an earlier skipped answer, a category that is not shared or another eligibility limit. You are not entitled to a fuller answer sheet to resolve that uncertainty.

Use a result to ask, not to schedule an activity

A Both enthusiastic result also needs a fresh conversation about the actual situation. Neither person has agreed to a date, setting or activity merely by answering Yes. Financial support, gifts and previous intimacy do not supply that agreement either.

Your present choice takes priority over an old result

You can change your mind about intimacy at any time. Let's Arrange This keeps submitted answers unchanged; start a new alignment if you both want a fresh comparison. You can decline something now even while an earlier report still shows shared interest.

You can say, “My answer reflected how I felt then. I do not want that now.” If you both want to compare again, agree on a new questionnaire voluntarily. Repeating the questionnaire is not a way to pressure someone into a different answer.