How it works.
Explore your expectations privately. Once you’ve both submitted, see where you align and what’s worth discussing.
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Choose your topics
Choose an alias and explore arrangement expectations, intimacy, or both. You each decide whether to include intimacy, and only the intimacy topics you both choose can appear in your shared results.
Answer privately
Share the invitation when you’re ready. You and your partner answer privately, each at your own pace.
See your shared results
Once you’ve both submitted, explore where you align and what’s worth discussing. Your partner won’t see your complete answer sheet.
What your results show.
Explore where your practical expectations align, where there may be common ground and what’s worth discussing. Experiences show only choices you both selected. Within intimacy topics you both choose to include, shared interests and possibilities to discuss may appear. An alignment never replaces ongoing consent.
Shared results can reveal something about each other’s preferences, especially when either of you is open to many possibilities. “Maybe” means uncertainty, not agreement.
Read questions about getting startedCommon ground. Room to talk.
Where expectations align and what’s worth discussing.
- Time together
- Aligned
- Travel
- Possible overlap
- Lifestyle
- Worth discussing
Your partner sees shared results, not your full answer sheet.
Before you begin
Can I use this without an account?
Yes. You can start, answer and read your shared report as a guest. Keep your private return link if you want to use another browser or device. You can also link a verified account for private history.
Can we choose intimacy only, or decline intimacy?
Yes. Choose arrangement, intimacy, or both. You each decide whether to include intimacy and which topics to explore. Only intimacy topics you both choose can appear in shared results. You can still finish if either of you leaves intimacy out.
More about optional intimacyWhich link do I send to my partner?
Your private return link
Use this link to restore your own access in another browser. Keep it private. An alignment code can locate your alignment but cannot grant access by itself.
Your partner's invitation
Send this invitation to your partner. Opening it does not join them automatically; they choose to join and confirm their own participation.
Keep a way back.
Keep your private return link, or link a verified account for private history. Only you see your labels and stars. Neither an account nor a star extends retention. Saving the report for longer requires both people’s permission before submission and a participant’s explicit Save.
Find words for the conversation
Our guides cover practical expectations, financial support and intimacy, with examples and a checklist you can use together.
Explore the guidesStart with clearer expectations.
Answer at your own pace. Invite your partner when you’re ready.
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